Andrew Solomon said nice things about MEMORY’S LAST BREATH. Doña Quixote asks: “Who is Andrew Solomon?”
Andrew Solomon (photo: Annie Leibovitz, from Solomon’s website) is a professor of psychology at Columbia University, and a regular contributor to The New Yorker, NPR, and The New York Times Magazine. He is also a gay man raising four children with his partner and a lesbian couple–he and his husband are each the biological father of two of their brood. Solomon is an activist and philanthropist in LGBT rights, mental health, education and the arts.
Photos: Portrait of a Modern Family M. SHARKEY FOR NEWSWEEK
Two of his best known books are The Noonday Demon; An Atlas of Depression and Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity. In the Noonday Demon, he writes about his own depression, which was partly triggered by his participation in obtaining a legal assisted death for his mother. Even though he theoretically supported the idea and helped her carry out her suicide, he suffered a severe depression afterwards. After reading the chapter from his book about this, I sent a copy to my family so that they would be aware of the possibility that they, too, might be affected in unexpected ways should they persist in helping me to commit suicide sometime in the future when I will no longer be rational.
In Far from the Tree, Solomon writes about families of individuals affected by a spectrum of cognitive, physical or psychological differences: “They are deaf or dwarfs; they have Down syndrome, autism, schizophrenia or multiple severe disabilities; they are prodigies; they are people conceived in rape or who commit crimes; they are transgender.” His interviews yielded nearly 40,000 transcript pages and his “anti-Tolstoyan” conclusion that “the unhappy families who reject their variant children have much in common, while the happy ones who strive to accept them are happy in a multitude of ways.” During his research, he developed close relationships (entailing multiple visits, unsparing communication and significant follow-up over a number of years) with the families who appear in his book.
My support system, the Saunders family, celebrate Christmas 2016 at our Roberta St house. From left around the table: Newton, Cheryl, Marissa, Dante, Adam, Sandi (Adam’s mom), Alliy, Kanye, Peter.
I feel so honored that Solomon took the time to read the advanced copy of my book that my press, Hachette Books, sent him, and that he wrote me such lovely words:
“This courageous and singular book describes both the indignities inscribed in the erosion of memory and the surprising grace to be found in that experience. At once observer and subject, Gerda Saunders demonstrates how a powerful intellect can remain undiminished even as other mental capacities are compromised. Her book’s lessons in dignity will be invaluable to anyone facing the complex meanings of dementia.”
–Andrew Solomon, National Book Award-winning author of The Noonday Demon and Far from the Tree
March 12, 2017 @ 7:30 am
Your book is wonderfully honest and truly inspiring.
March 21, 2017 @ 2:47 pm
Thanks so much for your support and kind words, Sandy. Wishing you and those you love all of the best.
March 12, 2017 @ 12:28 pm
Dear Gerda, congratulations on the excellent commentary on your book by Andrew Solomon. It is always so incredibly rewarding to know that what you had experienced and written is of huge benefit to others.
Love, Cliff and Ria
March 21, 2017 @ 2:46 pm
Dearest Cliff and Ria, It was so lovely to talk with you on the phone today. Since Mom’s death, you have been the people who always express love to me, no matter what I do. Thanks for always being there for me. We will think of you both on your birthday, Ria. We’ll lift our own glass to you on that day. Love you so much, Gerda
April 8, 2017 @ 7:22 am
Gerda, I am honored to be your friend.
You never seize to amaze me with your honesty, courage, resiliency, humor, talent, curiosity, openness, intellect, and acceptance of all who cross your path. Thank you for enriching our world.
April 9, 2017 @ 7:10 am
Dearest Riva, you are so amazing to write this beautiful note even while telling me some of these thoughts when you take me out for coffee or a meal so often. You are such a loyal and loving friend, I am grateful for the day I met you and for the 30 years of your thoughtful, deeply considered, and wise discussions and visits and meals shared. I love you, my Friend.xoxox