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  1. Donna Balthazard Dube
    August 29, 2018 @ 8:22 am

    And here I was thinking Shinta Cho’s, The Gas We Pass, was the ”bomb.” Gerda, your writing, your honesty, your vivid and detailed writing (including your overshares), made this a hilarious but very integral read.

    This was a conundrum I faced as caregiver for my Mom, who also had Dementia; it was a subject matter I vacillated with on more than one occasion. I felt at times her dignity or the importance I placed upon it warred with my desire to keep her healthy with a better quality of life. Unfortunately for me, Mom was not able to articulate, nor do I believe was she was even able to grasp the situation/decision at hand, so it made my singular decision making fraught with uncertainty, and guilt. I believe everything worked out for the best, with Mom, or at least I have no second thoughts—no regrets.

    Your life, journeys, adventure, love, and ability to face the world on its terms, meaning we can’t control a thing about life but how we deal with it, has certainly offered valuable information and invaluable personal insight!

    Thank you. I enjoy and am enriched by all your writings. Please know my best thoughts, wishes and prayers go out to you and yours! Quite frankly, Gerda, I’d read the telephone book if you wrote it!!

    I wrote a children’s book about my experiences with Mom that will be available in print mid-November; I’d be honored to send you a copy if you have a desire to read it?!

    Be well, beautiful lady and her knight in loving armor, and know I look forward to reading your next story!

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    • Gerda Saunders
      September 4, 2018 @ 4:41 pm

      Thank so much for making me laugh, Donna! I have not encountered The Gas We Pass, but immediately looked it up. I’m honored that my writing seemed to you comparable to this fabulous book! Thank you so much for your kind and supportive comment. It is so interesting to hear about your dilemma with your Mom–I’m sorry you had to go through this with her, but from my perspective you did exactly the right thing. I always tell Peter and my family that—while I hope and trust they will honor my request for an assisted death–it really would not matter to me what decisions they made once I no longer no what’s going on. I would want their fresh, undamaged brains to do the thinking on my behalf when I no longer can think rationally. Your decision was perfect! I inferred from your comment that you were a good writer, even before you told me the delightful news that you wrote a children’s book! Congratulations! I would love to have a copy. Not only will I read it, but I will make sure that my family and grandkids also read it. I would be happy to buy a copy if you would just remind me when it is out. However, to have your signature in it, I would love it if you sent me one. My address is 1235 E Wilmington Ave #704, Salt Lake City, Utah, 84106. YOu are so supportive and I appreciate you very, very much.I wish you and yours all of the very best! xoxox

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      • Donna Balthazard-Dube
        September 6, 2018 @ 2:50 pm

        So it shall be–my pleasure. Thank you, Gerda.

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        • Gerda Saunders
          September 6, 2018 @ 9:16 pm

          xoxox

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  2. shen
    September 2, 2018 @ 5:49 pm

    such wondrous writing! I feel your pain(and Peter’s) more acutely than before! Gerda…I don’t want a prolonged unlivable life either, but YOU are worth some big math progression squared more than 50,000 dollars!

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    • Gerda Saunders
      September 4, 2018 @ 4:43 pm

      YOu are so kind to be my writing cheerleader. And thanks for your math formula! I am so honored that you think I should still stick around. I am so excited about seeing you this week. Will be in touch. love you.

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