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  1. Peter
    March 28, 2021 @ 2:59 pm

    From the old school song ‘Forty years on” our adventure is even a decade longer and here are some of the words:
    Forty years on, growing older and older,
    Shorter in wind, as in memory long,
    Feeble of foot, and rheumatic of shoulder,
    What will it help you that once you were strong?
    God give us bases to guard or beleaguer,
    Games to play out, whether earnest or fun;
    Fights for the fearless, and goals for the eager,
    Twenty, and thirty, and forty AND FIFTY years on!

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    • Gerda Saunders
      March 29, 2021 @ 8:00 am

      What amazing lyrics from your school song, my Love. It is always so fascinating to think of you in Boys High and me in Meisies Hoër living our parallel lives so close to each other. We attended the same school plays and other events, and I did not know you existed! Just as well, because I was so socially clumsy in high school and shy of and scared of boys… I would have put you off for ever! Love you infinitely.

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  2. Shauna
    March 28, 2021 @ 5:28 pm

    So lovely. Congratulations! xoxoxo

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    • Gerda Saunders
      March 29, 2021 @ 7:56 am

      So lovely to hear from you, Shauna. Think of you and Lauren so often. You, too, have been clocking up the years with your lovely husband and family. Love you very much.

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  3. jude
    March 28, 2021 @ 6:23 pm

    teary making and touching

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    • Gerda Saunders
      March 29, 2021 @ 7:55 am

      Thanks so much for your lovely words, Jude. Love you.

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  4. Virlene Hirschi
    March 28, 2021 @ 8:57 pm

    Wonderful reflections; thanks for sharing your love story with all the insights that come from looking back: “Cancer saved us,” etc.

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    • Gerda Saunders
      March 29, 2021 @ 8:18 am

      Thanks for your lovely message, Virlene. Yes, sometimes it’s the oddest things that reminds us of our marriage commitments! Love you.

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  5. Gerda Saunders
    March 29, 2021 @ 8:09 am

    From Kimberley Carson:

    Dearest Gerda and Your Beloved Peter, Congratulations to both of you on this milestone of a “love” achievement. You give wise advice about what it truly means to commit after exchanging wedding vows and how to love even when life gets hard. I wish you at least five more years! Love, Kimberley

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    • Gerda Saunders
      March 29, 2021 @ 8:20 am

      Dearest Kimberley, Thanks so much for your lovely words. I think about you so often and will be back in touch when I have more time. “More time”–that’s what I shockingly don’t have, even in retirement! Wishing you just the very best in your difficult times and hope you are finding sources of relief. Lots and lots of love.

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      • Ria Saunders
        April 2, 2021 @ 12:31 pm

        What a wonderful love story! Congratulations dearest Peter and Gerda!,You did it! You honoured those marriage vows in sickness and health, for richer or poorer……and you reaped the wonderful reward to grow old together – loving each other more than ever before! With much love and many blessings Ria

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        • Gerda Saunders
          April 20, 2021 @ 12:40 pm

          My liefste Ria, thanks for taking time in the midst of your move-adventure to send these beautiful words about our marriage. You and Cliff are our example of carrying on through sickness and health, for richer or poorer. I know that you speak from your rich and love-filled experience when you say that one grows to love each other more than ever before. How fortunate we/ you are to have lived and be living that accumulation of love. Thinking of you in your new home. Time to talk on the phone again and do a video tour of your new place! Love you very much.

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  6. Gerda Saunders
    March 29, 2021 @ 8:55 am

    From Sally Shaum:

    Peter and Gerda,

    What a gorgeous day to celebrate!

    Witnessing your tender love for each other is beautiful. I’m smiling.

    Sally

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    • Gerda Saunders
      March 29, 2021 @ 9:00 am

      Dear Sally,

      Thanks so much for your lovely note! It was wonderful to hang out with you and the RadioWest crew last week–so good to get to know you as the Mensch you are. Thanks for your lovely wishes and generosity in helping portray my and Peter’s ongoing attempts to live well together!

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  7. Sonette Lategan
    March 29, 2021 @ 9:09 am

    Baie geluk Gerda en Peter, vanuit Suid-Afrika. Ek stem heelhartig saam met jou sieninge van “commitment”, liefde, goeie maniere en vriendskap vir ‘n goeie huweliksverhouding.
    Mag die volgende vyf jaar vir julle beskore wees.
    Liefde en seënwense!

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    • Gerda Saunders
      March 29, 2021 @ 10:07 am

      Baie dankie vir jou mooi woorde en goeie wense, Sonette. Baie liefde en my allerbeste wense ook vir jou en jou geliefdes.

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  8. Nico
    March 29, 2021 @ 10:59 am

    Ai, dis so mooi! Dankie!

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    • Gerda Saunders
      March 29, 2021 @ 11:15 am

      Ag Nico, dis maar net “deur die genade van die Here” dat mens op die ou end saam kan oudword. Lyk my jy en Cecile versamel ook baie dekades saam. Julle doen die wonderlikste stapte en fietsritte–so lekker om vicariously met julle saam te gaan! Baie liefde.

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  9. Jane Luger-Jacobson
    March 29, 2021 @ 11:38 am

    You are both such lovely people. Happy Anniversary and here’s to five more! 💜

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  10. Brenda Hofmeyr
    March 30, 2021 @ 9:07 am

    Liefste Gerda en Peter, baie geluk met die mylpaal. Julle sal vir ewig vir my dierbaar bly.

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  11. Gerda Saunders
    March 30, 2021 @ 9:30 am

    Liewe Enigste, hoe wonderlik om van jou te hoor. Op jou “ewige” opmerking kan ek net sê “ditto.” Baie liefde aan julle twee en liewe Nicola.

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  12. shen
    March 31, 2021 @ 9:32 pm

    Felicitations dear friends! Gerda I must tell you I forwarded this post to my kids and told them to read the wisdom of the longest-best-married-person I’ve known. xoxoxoxox

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    • Gerda Saunders
      April 1, 2021 @ 8:20 am

      My dearest Shen, you’re so sweet all the way from Maryland! Thanks for seeing me through some of the crises I describe in my post! YOU are my example of unconditional love–love you so much!

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  13. Philip Read
    April 3, 2021 @ 3:21 pm

    Dear Gerda and Peter. Many congratulations on achieving this magnificent milestone. Cathie and I are 10 months behind you. It is wonderful to note that so many of our friends, both in SA and in the UK, are now in their 70s and are still married to their original spouse. I do regret that we lost contact for so many years, and that our children have never met! Sterkte! Best wishes. Philip.

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    • Gerda Saunders
      April 20, 2021 @ 12:37 pm

      Dear Philip, how lovely to hear from you. You and Cathie and Peter and I are indeed of the same vintage marriage-wise. How lucky we are to have our partners for growing old together. If the universe ever cooperates, it would be so lovely to see you and Cathie–and beyond imagining that our families might meet. I so appreciate you being in touch. Lots of love to all of the Read clan.

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  14. Elaine Clark
    April 5, 2021 @ 2:21 pm

    Thank you for sharing this moment and for reminding us that love is beautiful work. “Good manners.” This is amazing advice that is all too easy to forget.

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    • Gerda Saunders
      April 20, 2021 @ 12:34 pm

      Thanks so much for being in touch, Elaine. I really miss you so much, but I do appreciate your radio presence and the amazing work you do. Now that Covid is getting under control we could maybe catch up over coffee some time! I so much want to hear about what you have been up to and about your other-than-work writing. xoxox

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  15. Joan Wright
    April 6, 2021 @ 12:29 pm

    Congratulations Gerda and Peter. To think that I was at your wedding 50 years ago.
    May you both be richly blessed .
    You have certain stood the test of time and devotion to one another.
    Much love,
    Joan.

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    • Gerda Saunders
      April 20, 2021 @ 12:33 pm

      Dearest Joan, Thanks so much for your blessings and the reminder of our wedding celebration 50 years ago. Yes, you were there and I cherish that. I of course think of you and Derek who were such an example of devotion through times much harder than Peter and I have had to face, particularly his last illness. My heart goes out to you as your cherish your years with him and participate in the lives of the gorgeous family that you and he had made. Love you so very much.

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